My father used to say, “Never let someone lick the sugar off your bubble gum.”

At first, I laughed—because, honestly, that sounds ridiculous. But the message stuck: what’s for you is for you. Protect your peace, guard your joy, and don’t let anyone take what makes you unique.

As you progress through life, it’s natural to encounter people who may harbor envy toward your growth. You might not even know them personally, but your light, consistency, and positivity can stir discomfort in those still battling their own insecurities.

The best advice I can give? Stay grounded. Stay genuine. Stay progressing.

“Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” — Romans 12:21

WHEN MISERY SEEKS COMPANY

There’s a saying: “Misery loves company.”

Some people dwell in negativity because it’s familiar. Don’t join them there. Let them linger on their island of pessimism while you climb to higher heights.

You may find yourself in environments where envy is difficult to ignore—sometimes even from colleagues or superiors. The key is prayer, integrity, and patience. Over time, situations shift. People either evolve, move on, or reveal themselves.

Remember, nothing in life stays the same. Either you change, they change, or the environment changes. What matters is that you keep your light shining and your purpose unwavering.

THE QUIET BATTLE

Often, envy isn’t about you at all—it’s about someone else’s inner conflict. Many people fight quiet battles of insecurity and comparison. Instead of asking for guidance or putting in the work, they choose resentment.

Don’t take it personally. Envy is a reflection, not a mirror—it shows more about them than it does about you.

“A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones.” — Proverbs 14:30

RESPONDING WITH WISDOM

It all comes down to awareness. Some people need encouragement; others need distance. Pray for discernment to know which is which. Sometimes it’s not your battle to fight—but it’s always your responsibility to guard your spirit.

People may gossip, misjudge, or even lie. Sometimes you’ll have to stand your ground; other times, you let The Most High defend you. The key is to act with wisdom—speak when led, stay silent when necessary, and always remain centered in peace.

“The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.” — Exodus 14:14

KEEP SHINING

No matter how successful or humble you are, someone will still find a reason to criticize. It doesn’t always take grandeur to trigger envy—sometimes your mere existence, consistency, or light is enough.

Don’t dim your light to make others comfortable.
Don’t shrink to fit into places you’ve outgrown.
Light exposes all things—and those walking in darkness will either retreat or awaken.

“The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.” — John 1:5

FINAL THOUGHT

The days are growing darker, and the world needs your light more than ever. So continue to be a source of positivity, integrity, and hope—not for validation, but for impact.

Let your growth be your response. Let your light be your defense. And let your humility be your armor.

— Early Boykins III